by NorthernDevo » Fri Mar 22, 2013 3:04 am
Uh, thanks.
Still feel like a jerk; I've been feeling like that a lot lately. Thanks for your understanding. Heid: I hope the self-censorship will work; the whole point of posting is to provide a source of discipline for me. My life is largely solitary; staring at a computer screen; either writing or playing games when not at work. I'd hoped that the community of the forums would give me a reason to 'play nice', as it were.
I know that a huge chunk of my personality is extraordinarily nasty; it had to be to survive the emotional hell of life on the street. Until now, it's always been held in check by protocol, societal norms and my desire to fit in. What scares me is the possibility that that nasty person is the person I really am. I honestly don't know - there literally hasn't been a full week since the Bosnian War when I haven't been drunk - or at least had some alcohol in my system. What if I'm really the bad person that comes out once in a while? What if Hyde is Dr. Jekyll's true personality? I don't think I can accept that.
I have a piece of good news to pass on, though; if you're willing to hear it. Part of my problem is my misanthropic behaviour - my tendency to hate mixing with people; to avoid joining groups. I've tried; using the one tool available to me: Aikido. Unfortunately there seems to be a huge UFC attitude cloud hanging over this city; I've visited more than a dozen aikido dojos in order to find a good place to train. I haven't found one that satisfies my needs. They either blend Aikido with other skills to be more "effective" - thus corrupting the art - or teach "UFC-Oriented Aikido" or are simply so poor they're not worth my time. I found exactly two good dojos - and the senseis of each demanded I surrender my belt and start with them as Kohai. Another one - not one of the good ones - even demanded I refer to him as 'Master'; charged me $100/mth for the privelege of training with him and required I study nothing he did not previously approve.
Heh heh - I did pay him the hundred bucks; and begged the Great Sensei to teach me via Kumite - unscripted sparring. He graciously accepted; while his students watched. They all learned an important lesson that day; the difference between someone who think's he's good at Aikido and someone who has spent almost thirty years trying to not be bad at Aikido. His dojo closed a few weeks later; though probably because the city knocked the building down to make way for the LRT rather than because I bounced their teacher off every flat surface I could find. I even went walking around with him in sankyo; looking for other flat surfaces to bounce him off of. Remember - I was still very much in 'nasty guy' mode and don't take lightly to poseurs. I take the traditional skills and protocol of Aikido very seriously - it's probably the thing that's kept me alive the past twenty years.
Well; on Tuesday I visited the local YMCA; thinking to rent space and open another dojo of my own. I was disappointed to learn the Y doesn't rent space; they hire teachers. But they did offer an aikido class; Wenesday and Friday. I attended Yesterday's class and was utterly delighted. Sensei Rob is a nice guy with a quick joke and welcoming smile; his students are enthusiatic, eager and variable - it's a walk-in class serving the Y; so it has everything from moms trying to get the extra 10 pounds from Thanksgiving off to serious MMA practicioners to kids off the street. Rob invited me to attend tomorrow's class; and I intend to do so. Even a casual examination tells me I have far more experience and training than Rob but that doesn't matter in the least; it's his class; I am his guest and I'm pleased he doesn't feel any concern about having a more senior student in his class. Great credit to him; there aren't many teachers with that kind of confidence. I can't tell until I actually participate but I think I might've found a class - a group - I can join without dark feelings. I'll tell you how the class went tomorrow.
Hopefully yours,
Dave